Now now.. It is a basic fact that everything, along with people, change. And it’s up to us to decide whether or not they have changed for the better, or for the worse. You may even be hurt as you stand in the way of those people who evolve in front of you, seeing how they turn from someone you once knew into someone you can’t even recognize. And then comes the disappointment of having to witness those changes, when you finally meet again.
You didn’t lose those people. Just be on their part; try not to be one-sided. You don’t even know the things that they have experienced for them to change a part of themselves—with or without them knowing.
And I am talking about myself.
I have been busy for the whole summer, and when I say busy, that means busy like hell. There are a lot of things going inside my head right now: our class schedule, school requirements and stuff, specially thinking about how unfair things have been throughout this summer. I barely have time to catch up with my other friends, even those who belong to the other block. And that’s just how things are. Jam-packed with our own priorities.
Next, I am talking about my best friend.
It makes me sad to slowly realize how distant we’ve grown apart since I entered this program. The last time we hang out together, we barely talked! I know you can understand this, because I’ve had that same feeling that you know you’ve been friends for a long time, and when you finally meet each other, THAT happens. Like, what the hell? And I tell you, that feeling was the worst thing that happened throughout our friendship history.
Lastly, I am talking about you.
Quit saying you’re tired of understanding things and seeing people change, when in fact, what happens to them happens to you as well. And what they’ve done to you, you may have done to others too. As you see, there are a lot of deeper things that should be in our minds right now. Changes, which are permanent, should not be included on that list. The more we think about it, the more we end up getting hurt over something that’s inevitably happening.
Shouting to the world how you’ve been affected by the turn out of events and those silly conversations of what was and has been, is not a good idea, and almost a waste of time (at least that’s what I think). You’d have to accept it to yourself first that you change, just as well.
On the brighter side (whew), the things you’ve been expecting from those same old people, those that you point out to have vanished or have changed, can still be met. Perhaps in a different approach, time and place? it all depends. Because deep inside, back at the farthest portion of who they are, it’s still them that you claim to have once known of. You just have to accept that what they’ve become, as well as who you’ve become, is just a part of how nature has taught us to cope with our own unique daily experiences. And the foundation of what they are, the major portion of the things you like about them, will always, under normal circumstances, remain untouched.
You don’t actually lose people, you don’t actually lose friends: they have just undergone changes. And maybe it’s best if we just respect what we’ve become now. ‘Coz again, what happens to them happens to you as well. And what they’ve done to you, you may have done to others too. Those changes just prove that we grow, we learn and we have matured. So there’s no reason to whine about things and people changing. The same way I don’t whine about my closest friends changing if front of me, the same way they didn’t whine when they saw me changing/evolving in front of them. Have faith. We’ll eventually get used to it. :)
